Is so stupid I can’t believe someone actually decided to do this. Nudity isn’t something that’s meant to be sexualized all the time. Being offended by your own anatomy is so heinous it blows my mind. And actually, I think the people who take nudes or whatever, they aren’t sluts, they aren’t whatever disgusting slur you want to throw at them, they’re comfortable with themselves. That’s all the fucking are. And to do that, they obviously have to respect themselves and know that they’re a beautiful person no matter what, so this gif just needs to be removed from everything.
I must respectfully disagree, in some ways. I completely agree that nudity is nothing be ashamed of, and slurs are harmful and don’t do any good at all…
However, I think there is a difference between someone that is not afraid or ashamed of their bodies, and someone that uses their bodies to get a reaction. There are girls (and guys?) that don’t have self respect. They use their naked body to get a reaction from men and don’t care who it harms. There are girls that post pictures of themselves all day long just to get compliments, or to get sexual comments that they can get off to, they’ll do anything for anyone and honestly, to me, that’s having no self respect. I hate labels like “slut” or “whore” when they’re used in harmful ways but girls like that are hard for me to understand. Women that don’t care who they hurt by talking to “random people”, to someone, it’s not just a random person, it’s someone’s husband, or wife, or boyfriend or girlfriend. Yes I think that no one should be ashamed of their bodies, and should be free to do whatever they like… but there is a line between being free and unashamed and abusing that freedom. You have to be careful with that freedom because what you consider your freedom could be someone else’s kryptonite, for example a husband that’s trying to stay faithful to his wife. I’ve known way too many men that aren’t strong enough to say no, to something so simple as a photograph. To you it may mean nothing, to his wife I’m sure it means much more. Of course… all this would fall on deaf ears if you’re one of those people that thinks relationships are not serious and think nothing of cheating on a significant other… I could talk about that all night long and how much I hate that…. but anyways…
And while I’m on the subject, all you people that object to this gif for those reasons… you aren’t even thinking about the women that choose NOT to show everyone their bodies, not because they are ashamed, or offended by nudity. But because they don’t want just anyone to see their bodies. My best friend was ridiculed on tiny chat because she wouldn’t take off her shirt and show her breasts to a group of drunk friends. One of them said “it’s literally sad that you won’t show your tits.” HELLO. It’s her fucking choice. Just because you’re drunk and horny does not mean that she should automatically pull out her tits. She is an amazing person, that just chooses not to show the world her intimate body because she wants it to be saved for intimate moments with her significant other. And there is nothing fucking wrong with that. And anyone that’s going to pressure someone into taking off their clothes should be slapped in the face.
This is MY body and MY choice. If I decide to lose weight, I would do it by diet and exercise and because I WANT to. Not because some uneducated prick shames me into thinking that I am less of a woman or NOT sexy because of my size. Get a clue.
I wanted to address something that I’ve seen not just on SHYB, but on Tumblr, and actually in fact, everywhere both online and off. It’s called concern trolling.
Concern trolling can take many forms, but the basic gist of it is the following:
(picture of a fat girl) Concern troll: I’m really glad she’s happy with herself but that’s really unhealthy! or Concern troll: She should really be exercising and eating better! Her joints must be taking a beating! or Concern troll: Oh my god, she’s going to die if she doesn’t change her lifestyle!
(picture of a very slim girl) Concern troll: She’s beautiful but she should really eat a sandwich! or Concern troll: She MUST have an eating disorder! or Concern troll: it’s not healthy if I can see her ribs!
Basically anything that starts out with ‘I’m glad she/he is happy/proud/loves him/herself, but…’
These people can appear on any kind of post, using any variation of comments. The one thing they have in common is the guise of ‘concern’ or ‘helpfulness’ to the original poster.
It’s important for everyone reading this to realize just how unhelpful this is to everyone. Fat people know that they’re fat. Skinny people know they’re skinny. Everyone who has some kind of ‘abnormality’ (and I use that term very loosely) is perfectly aware that they have it.
You cannot tell someone’s health by looking at them. Regardless of whether they’re 70lbs or 400lbs. What’s more important then that, however, is that the health of anyone else has absolutely nothing to do with you. For anyone to judge anyone else under the guise of concern is incredibly condescending and unkind.
Remember the golden rule: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
It’s important to remember that people are revealing their biggest insecurities when they submit to this blog, and it’s very difficult to be that brave and vulnerable. All we ask is that as a community, we ALL support one another to have a happy and positive outlook on life.
This is a body positive space. ALL bodies are good bodies, and EVERYONE deserves to be happy and have positive self esteem regardless of the size of their bodies, how healthy they are, or anything else that’s purely physical. If you disagree with this mindset, perhaps SHYB isn’t the blog for you.
As always, we mods can’t catch everything, so if you see someone concern trolling or making negative comments on ANY post, PLEASE tell us about it so we can remove them from the site. You can either send us an ask, or submit the link to the post so we can take care of it.